If the planters are near to the Kitchen, why not use them to put herbs in, or salad crops like lettuces and radishes? I'm sure your children would like this, as i'm trying to introduce my 3 year old (nearly 4) to gardening, so he knows where some of the green things on his plate come from. I'm also hoping that as he's helped me grow them and water them, he'll be more likey to eat them! I'm also trying strawberries in a hanging basket, as strawberries are one of the few things he'll happily eat!
Dianthus are a good idea to grow, as they're not poisonous, and come in a variety of colours, mostly the purples and pinks you're after. Maybe a mix of dianthus and lavendar? I'm sure the smell would be lovely as well as looking good.