Oh Tim. How disappointing, and not very encouraging for us. However, I always take the attitude that a plant has two choices, either it grows or it doesn't. I often tell it so, as well! If it doesn't do well, I tell myself that it isn't my gardening skills responsible for the failure, but the climate, the plant or my soil. There are so many beautiful flowering plants I can't get hung up over a failure or two. Penstemons are beautiful, and so reliable. Good luck with them.