it's a really difficult one as all I've got to go on is what the plant looks like now and what the description was, he didn't know the name of it and I haven't seen what the flowers look like.
I've seen the verbacum bombyciferum before and would match the soft feel of the leaves. It might be a phlomis, but really not sure. Re the link is that the same Bowles that the Bowles Mauve wallflowers are named after?
It might be a sage, grew some commercial packets of clary sage, they had coloured leaves.
If it flowers, will definately post some pictures.
Thanks again.