Sorry to hear about the demise of the citrus shrub. Dr Hessayen "Expert" series does give some really good advice about how to deal with it......... including insecticide but just can't find the book at the moment
If I remember right I think red spider mite are a symptom of dry/hot conditions, I would remove any webs or signs of it with a damp cotton bud and mist the plant regularly
Found it... his advice
"Daily misting will help prevent attack; spray with derris, malathion or systemic insecticide as soon as the first signs are seen" Hope that helps a little