BusyLizzie - thanks for those thoughts.
I'm glad to say that I have already found the solace from maintaining the garden is as much about the feeling that I am still doing something of value for my wife as for the benefits it gives me and our family. Seeing everything blossom again is like she is still here.
At first unsure about including these rather personal thoughts on this forum I then realised there might be others who can benefit from reading about the healing effects of gardening. I imagine this is what is behind the passionate enthusiasm for their work expressed by so many 'celebrity' gardeners. (Maybe this is one of the benefits of 'TV gardening' - this GW forum being another!)
On a more practical level I am about to attempt the demanding task ????????(fanfare!) of posting some more photos ????
180 snapdragon or begonia, bought as plugs, and destined for larger pots, beds and hanging baskets. ( Let's hope I don't tip them out of their pots once I've posted their pictures!)
So far so good. Now some Hostas doing well after a winter of neglect against a north facing wall. (So far no slugs)
Now will they post? Here goes!