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Artjak - I've PMd you
I shall be at Chelsea. However, it's about 30 years since I visited teh gardens at Bressingham and I'm unlikely to get there again so I'd love it if someone would take photos of the gardens at Bressingham and share them on here. I'll do the same with mine of Chelsea.
It's a deal
Cheers Dove. But frankly, with a 2 year who expects continuous and varied entertainment from mummy, and a house and garden needing refurbishment, weekends are not that good for me either! Actually easier to just take a day off work to come! Work bit busy at mo, but later in the year may be able to come along. Keep us all posted with any East Anglian outings!
On the plus side, going would only give me more ideas which would not be good on either the pocket or the time planning
I quite like 2 year olds (in small doses)
Have you been to Fairhaven?
No, rather embarrassingly as it's so close by. It's been on the list for a while! My son would love Bressingham's trains but I'd like to meet you all without him so we can talk properly. (His other opinion is that mummy should have his undivided attention.) As he gets older he may concede that mummy can do a bit of gardens and he can do a bit of trains.
Fairhaven should be at it's best at the moment - lots of candelabra primulas - lots of water too so children best strapped into a buggy, but a good little tea shop which seems child-friendly.
Supernoodle - that is so funny!! We have two 'attention-deprived' foster children (9 and 6) who got none for the first 8 and 5 years of their lives, and we are trying to make up the deficit - a good experience is not a good experience unless you had an adult watching you do it. It can be very wearing!!
Busy Bee, "a good experience.... adult watching.." Is soooo spot on! You foster parents are amazing - I don't know how you do it. My son is amazing and I love him more than I thought possible. But I am now a servant! I think it'll be nice when he can let mummy have my own time, but at the same time I don't want him to grow up - he's so fab as he his. (Apart from last night when he said I had a crack on my face and pointed to my eye wrinkles.)Why is it though, that my enthusiasm for gardening has come at a time when I have got time to do it? And what was I doing when I thought I didn't have time to do stuff, pre children?!
Noodle, you were having a life. You had friends, you went places, you watched the telly (as opposed to having it on in the background as you fall asleep - that doesn't count). You were taking an interest in your appearance, cooking meals that didn't have to have 'junior appeal'. You had long phone chats with friends, and updated your Facebook. But don't despair. Demanding as they are, children can be told that you are a 'bit busy at the moment' and (to quote my mother) 'grown-ups are talking'. I grew up convinced of the fact that I was the apple of my mother's eye, and she was so grateful to have had a baby, but sometimes 'grown ups were talking', and that was sacred. Children need you to be there for all their triumphs, and they need to overhear you telling other people how great they are (in a proud but not boastful way!!) But at the same time, you have to let on that it's not 'all about them, all the time'. It's a very hard call!! Our foster children struggle with it a bit, but are getting used to taking their turn mostly. Little boy in the car the other day kept trying to interrupt while our birth son was telling my husband about his exam results. But we had to stand our ground - our birth son (15) doesn't get that much of the attention pool nowadays, but when something important like exams comes up, obviously he takes precedence over the incidental musings of a six year old.
Oh I so agree BB. My son is growing out of his afternoon nap, but I insist that even if he doesn't go to bed, we have "quiet time" and I can read my "flowers magazine" with my cuppa, or close my eyes in the chair. Not that I get a relax, " can I see your flowers, mummy?", "you want me to turn the page for you, don't you, mummy"' "you asleep, mummy?"' "Want a blanket/ milk/toy, mummy." but, hey, going in the right direction! He's also quite responsive when I say,"mummy's talking to daddy, now" but then repeats the same if anyone talks to me "I'm talking to mummy now" Ho hum!
But they are brilliant aren't they?! He's just potty trained and at the weekend met an older boy in the park who said he liked my son's t-shirt. My son said, "see my pants" and pulled his trousers down. Icing on the cake was that he was wearing one of his "thomas the tank engine" set which meant he had PERCY emblazoned across the front. They had me in hysterics without being worn!
Sorry about stealing a gardening thread to talk about children!! Will shut up now!
Morning Dove! Sorry, realised I'd high jacked your invite thread with mummy warblings!!
Morning Snoodle - I could compete with similar mummy warblings of my own, but as mine are 41 and 37 (or is it 38 ) they'd probably rather I didn't
I thought it was the role of any parent over children over about 14 to embarrass their children? Payback time for the nappies, sleepless nights.....
There has to be a cut-off point as otherwise they accuse you of being totally ga-ga and threaten to put you in a home
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