I really hope nobody decides to leave this forum due to this silly PM thing going on.
It's upsetting that some people are letting their ugly side show. Thats .. disappointing, you would hope grown ups could play nice. I can guess who the 'leader' is, what an ... :P
Anyway being members of more than one forum isn't unusual, nobody has to make a choice to be on this forum or on that forum
It is sad it is straining friendships. I guess being a bit thick skinned helps, but i'm sure i am not the only person unwilling to bend to another persons will, we are fundamentally equal.
The only way you can be pressurised or bullied is if you let yourself be. A friend isn't a friend if they are pressurising you to do something you do not want to do.
I hope people are happy with their new forum, just have the curtesy to be respectful and considerate of peoples feelings. This forum will be better and stronger for losing these bullies.
So far as I can tell all the nice people are staying put, so no worries
Hope this is a mostly a fair and balanced post.
happy gardening (if the weather improves).