Posted: 08/06/2013 at 14:25
Fairygirl: thanks loads for that advice/support re clematis.
I imagine they're probably too vigorous to just die but I did note you said you had one. Did you eventually take it out? If so was this because it got unmanageable in that position?
Re your own garden pictures / comments - and this also applies to (I think it was) Bev's beautiful little house front : I don't think it matters one jot that some gardens are bigger or smaller, or well designed or free to develop in their own way.
Any 'better' or 'worse' comparison implies an attempt to confer, or 'buy into' perceptions like guilt, shame, pride, smug self satisfaction etc etc. We just don't need to do that.
Fortunately I've never detected any of that sort of destructive motivation anywhere on GW forum.
That would miss the point - which is: we have all chosen to encourage and support the natural world of plants (and I suspect all living things) in what ever way we are able. Some of us are able to do more, some less. So what? It all helps.
My own garden is quite a challenge at present now; I am on a steep learning curve and am doing it alone. Thankfully, I've ceased agonising recently - since everything has exploded into life without my help after the deadly winter. It's given me the encouragement to simply do what I can, when I can - and I am so grateful to have it.
I know, for example, there are weeds in so many borders, pots and hanging baskets etc with small likelihood of a quick fix. I can't compete with the experts - so I don't try, I just pick up what I can, when I can. I think we all do. It's all we can do, and it's all we need to do.
Whoops! I'm not quite sure of where all that came from. Perhaps I needed to say all that for myself as well as for everyone else who gets self doubts. We mustn't do it - self doubt is a killer.
(Here endeth the lesson!!!!)