Posted: 16/10/2017 at 08:23
Haven't been on for a few days: have I missed much?
Work is going tits up in a major way; we've lost (as in zero notice just an email saying bye) two managers above us and not heard anything about who is taking their roles on until a replacement is found. Honestly do I attract such incompetence or do companies just hide it until I start?
Still; I'm trying to think of long term plans for the grandparents. On Saturday I had to drive grandma's car (her daughter had been using it all week as hers was kaput) back to their house. Why grandma (who insists she drives it regularly) couldn't drive it back as the whole family were together that weekend I've no idea.
Anyway... going in to their house it's clear that they are not in the slightest bit coping. The toilets smell worse than a public urinal and the whole house - for people who are quite house proud - is... well it sounds harsh but "unclean".
This is after they complained they had spent two days cleaning ready to go to her daughter's.
Unfortunately there are some issues
1. Grandparents are stubborn. Grandma especially does get best to inflame the situation and unfortunately her daughter and her grandson (my partner) haven't yet learnt how to control their emotions. Honestly she can turn the simplest of things into a major row. It took me two years of fighting to get them to go for a much needed hearing test.
2. Daughter is an only child and is aware there are issues but I don't think she knows it is this bad. She is scared about her parents having to give up their independence and the idea of them moving in with her, as much as she would like this, will give her a mental breakdown (plus their house isn't suitable in that grandma and the stairs is a trauma all of its own).
3. I'm not local. If I was local I could nip in a few evenings a week and keep on top of things. I would invite them to live with us but that makes it harder for daughter as she's then unable to visit as easily.
I can see now why people spread across the country are so quick to jump to popping family in to nursing homes.
Last edited: 16 October 2017 08:29:13