Posted: 10/01/2017 at 16:37
You are all so kind.
"Boyz" Punkdoc, would that be you & Hosta?, If only.
I've now had a sleep, got up, done all the i*****g and cleaned the house from top to bottom - don't worry, it's only small so took all of 20 minutes, however, they were tasks I've shunned for the last week almost.
Charlie is home with me now for a couple of days and then it's my week-end with him.
As far as ex OH is concerned, Obelixx that sounds like a very good strategy, I certainly need a very robust one, he is so devious and so intimidating. This last incident went along the lines of him asking me if I was "going to take Charlie skiing again this year," I said yes, he said "the same place", I said yes, he said "week- end or midweek", I said midweek, he then said "what dates are you looking at", I told him, "Ok, I'll go and get it booked for us then" and walked off. Of course I was totally speechless. I thought he was asking so he would know when he could take Charlie on holiday with him, he can't ski, he has never skied, he didn't come with us last year, why would he even consider he would come this year. I know when I confront him about it he will accuse me of agreeing and then changing my mind, not thinking of Charlie and so on and so on. I think I may have to send him an e-mail because otherwise it will be just awful. It's so hard when on the face of it it seems like a nice kind gesture, paying and organising a holiday for me, but it would be the worst thing I could do I am sure. What kind of messages does it send to Charlie, to him and a few days exclusively in his company and I would be back to where I started 6 months ago. Why would he even want to go with me, I just don't understand him.
Anyway, besides that I feel a bit more upbeat, but still a long way to go. One step at a time. Perhaps a slice of that lovely cake will be the bets thing for now. I might have to consider buying a new handbag too if I have to fit you all into it.