Posted: 29/06/2016 at 13:05
DD remember that he or she who pays the piper calls the tune. Whilst your solicitor etc can advise you of the the legal aspects of your divorce, they need to be aware of the approach you wish to take and be happy to work with you to achieve it.
However, do be prepared for your OH's lawyers to encourage him to 'play tough' - your legal advisors will need to have the ammunition to fire back at them if that's the direction things go in. They will, of course, need to take steps to protect your and Charlie's interests in case should things 'get nasty', but they shouldn't be initiating any nastiness.
Good luck ((hugs))