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Hello Forkers ... September edition

Posted: 18/09/2017 at 12:39
punkdoc says:

.... I spent half my young adult days hoping, I would not turn out like him. ...

 Don't worry ... I'm pretty certain that you didn't ((hugs)) 

A lass I knew became pregnant at 16 by her boyfriend ... but her parents had already forbidden her to see him as he was a bad lot, and her father had been trying to set her up with his younger work colleague who was a few pence short of a shilling but a 'steady type'.  

When the lass (we'll call her S) realised she was expecting she hid it from her parents and went out with the second chap (we'll call him J) and accepted his almost immediate proposal of marriage and they were married before you could blink.  A 'premature' son was swiftly followed by a couple of daughters  but the marriage broke down unsurprisingly given J's 'limitations'.

Years down the line one of the daughters became ill and it was discovered she had an inherited condition which turned out to be from her father J's family  and that his increasing 'limitations' were the result of the same condition ... before long he became very ill and needed full time care.  The son became his carer .... some years later son was about to marry and start a family he asked for testing to see if he carried the faulty gene ... only to discover that the man who had brought him up and that he had given up his job to become carer for wasn't his father at all ... he demanded the truth from his mother S who told him that his father was actually a chap who had 'done time' for armed robbery and who was a thoroughly bad lot.  The son went totally off the rails and much sadness ensued .... 

Parents should not try to hide things from their children ............ it rarely turns out well.  

Last edited: 18 September 2017 12:40:31


Posted: 18/09/2017 at 12:01

There may be lots of  reasons for someone mis-pronouncing something ... but there is only one reason for embarrassing someone about it ... and that is sheer bad manners 

May tree

Posted: 18/09/2017 at 11:05

It depends how you want it to grow and how much space you're prepared to let it have ... it might not need pruning at all 

If you post a photo or two of the tree and its place in your garden we'll get a better idea of your options.

To upload a photo click on the camera icon and follow the instructions ... it the photo doesn't upload reducing its size usually works 

Last edited: 18 September 2017 11:05:49

Hello Forkers ... September edition

Posted: 18/09/2017 at 10:07

Good morning all 


Pdoc ... you are all victims in this ... your half brother, you and your siblings, and your mother ... there is no point in being angry with each other and hopefully your sisters will reflect and realise this ... however when that time comes the realisation will dawn that your father made mistakes ... and daughters sometimes find that hard to accept about their fathers    ... hopefully the passage of  time and calmness  will work wonders ((hugs))


Posted: 18/09/2017 at 09:58
Lyn says:

... I wouldn't like a pedant for a friend...


It doesn't matter to me whether other people get it 'right' (whatever that may mean ... living languages are continually in a state of flux  ) as long as we find a way to understand each other ....

but I have to try to get it right just as I had to keep my colouring inside the lines or else Gt Aunty Olive would smack my hand ... and she may still be watching/listening ............ 

lawn scarification?

Posted: 18/09/2017 at 09:44

Think there are several types of tools that get called scarifiers nowadays.

We have one which has two interchangeable 'things' .... one has a lot of spikes ... more of an electric rake really ... this is great for raking out moss and thatch.

The other has blades and this cuts into the surface of the soil and this helps to lessen surface compaction, allows air and moisture in and stimulates the roots to grow. This is really the 'scarifier'.

Both 'things' can be set at various heights according to the needs of your lawn.  

Found it!  This is ours 


Posted: 18/09/2017 at 07:46

In Norfolk there is a village called 'Hautbois' ... how is that pronounced?   

Thats right ... you've got it ... it's pronounced 

'Obbis ... 

Rescue my clematis

Posted: 17/09/2017 at 22:40

It's what I use as a basic mix. I add generous amount of horticultural grit to the mix for plants than have a need for very free-draining soil. 

Hello Forkers ... September edition

Posted: 17/09/2017 at 18:37
Obelixx says:


Dove - how daft can people be?... 

 Looks like some people are determined to let us know ... 


Posted: 17/09/2017 at 17:21

Ma called it Cotton Easter for years ... until she joined the WI in her forties and made some gardening friends.  

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