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Posted: 05/05/2015 at 16:24

Wrens have been known to use bird boxes - in fact they often congregate in them in the winter to keep warm.

I don't know of any superstitions about wrens, but I like to think that at times of great emotion our senses are heightened and we notice things more than we do at other times - in a way this is the gift our lost loved ones give to us.


Amnesia Rose

Posted: 05/05/2015 at 16:04

The Amnesia rose is a florists' rose, grown abroad and imported.  I don't think it's available in the UK, and probably wouldn't be happy growing in UK garden conditions.

Can't prove anything

Posted: 05/05/2015 at 15:58

I grew broad beans mixed with wallflowers in my last front garden.   People kept stopping and asking what those pretty black and white flowers were

Can't prove anything

Posted: 05/05/2015 at 14:01

Bless you - try not to get anxious about things.  It sounds to me as if your new neighbours are trying to be helpful to someone new in the area. 

As you say they probably know that you have a difficulty and they want to help. I'm sure they don't expect you to wave a magic wand and create a wonderful garden overnight - if they like gardening they know how much hard work it takes - also, as you'll learn on here, most gardeners like to share.

Don't worry about having a disability and being young - most people with any amount of intelligence know that disability is no respecter of age and things can strike at any time.  A very dear member of my ex in-law family started having strokes in her late 20s - she had a tough time to start with, but then she moved to somewhere where the neighbours were kind and helpful and she got to know them. 

They knew that she wanted to be as independent as possible, but all gardeners lend and borrow tools and give cuttings and seeds, and soon she had a lovely garden she and her children could play in, and as her health took a turn for the worse the garden became a sanctuary for her, and her neighbours always knew where to find her, resting in her little garden. 

Don't put too much pressure on yourself - talk to your neighbours when you feel up to it - explain that you're shy (or something like that) so they know to give you a bit of space, then you'll feel in control of things.  A smile can work wonders even if you're not up to talking that day.

And one day you'll be the person offering to help your neighbours or give them a cutting or seedling or two - how lovely will that be?!

So no, you're not paranoid and silly - just a little shy and anxious, and gardening is a great way to get some confidence and make some friends - just take little steps - you don't have to do everything at once




Posted: 05/05/2015 at 13:13

Verdun, Did they have their buckets and spades with them?


Ivy Root

Posted: 05/05/2015 at 13:05

If all you're doing is keeping your side neat it shouldn't affect what it looks like her side.  When ivy reaches the top of whatever it's climbing on it changes its style of growth and has branches on which grow the flowers and berries - it is these that are so good for wildlife - important pollinating insects love the flowers and the berries are an important food resource for birds in the winter - could it be this that your neighbour is anxious about?  Is she keen on wildlife etc?

There's some useful tips on this link about how to manage ivy

Hope this helps

Ivy Root

Posted: 05/05/2015 at 12:17

You can cut or dig up the ivy roots if they are on your property.  If that kills the ivy so be it.  If your neighbour wants ivy growing on her wall she can plant some. 

However, I understand the problems of difficult neighbours and you don't want to fall out if you don't have to.  Ivy can be very good for wildlife - would it be preferable to just keep the ivy clipped neatly on your side rather than kill it? 



Posted: 05/05/2015 at 12:12

Hello folks, back home again after running OH into the city to pick up paint etc - he was only going to be a few minutes ....... just time for me to leave the car in the short term parking bay and pop into a café for a coffee and a bacon roll then text him where to find me   Who says I don't make good use of my time

Positive thoughts and silly things for the tough times

Posted: 05/05/2015 at 08:40

 A Verdun Magnet!

The things we do for a bargain

Posted: 05/05/2015 at 08:30

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