Posted: 29/11/2014 at 07:31
Whatever you do with your time is your own business - however I can assure you that the rest of us also have homes to clean, washing to do, shopping to do, meals to prepare etc as well as gardening to do, and many of us are not as young as we once were. To complain about the cost of having letters after your name is bonkers. Qualifications earned through education do not have to be paid for (nowadays the education does, but that's another matter ) but letters denoting Fellowships and memberships of various bodies are only necessary in employment. - usually once one has been a Fellow for many years and contributed to the work of the organisation the Fellowship is granted for life and no payment is required upon retirement. If you want to continue paying then that's your business - we all have to pay for our hobbies. However having letters after your name is impressing nobody but yourself - many of us on here have academic and professional qualifications but we don't dream of using them on here. Ma used to put mine on my birthday and Christmas cards, but again, that's another matter
I'm sure that people will be glad that you have found a special friend through the board. However that should be a private matter - friendship is not a trophy to be bragged about and you should not be challenging people to 'Guess who". If I were that lady I'd be very annoyed at being treated like that.
You have been advised to read through your posts before submitting. Can I advise you that when you read through you're not just checking for typos etc. You should be trying to read through another's eyes, to see how what you have written will be read and interpreted by other people .
A playwright has to understand how his play will appear to the audience; a novelist has to read his work as if seeing each page for the first time, and if we are to gain the understanding of our audience we have to understand how what we write comes across. Writing a list of instructions to be followed is easy - writing to gain someone's understanding is a skill that needs to be honed.
As for using the computer all day - I log on with my morning coffee - check my emails and reply etc and I can do any banking, pay bills etc as necessary. I then open the two messageboards of which I'm a member and read and contribute as I choose while I have my second coffee and breakfast. I then get on with my day, returning to the forums when I sit down to have another coffee or a rest after a strenuous bit of gardening. The computer does not rule my day any more than having a cooker and food mixer out in the kitchen does - I do not feel compelled to be cooking all day just because they are there.
Mike, I'm sure that somewhere inside you there's a very nice chap but you're not letting him shine. Stop endlessly justifying your behaviour - if you want to be a regular contributor on here then just get on with it - stop bragging about qualifications and girlfriends, stop using 'ploys' to try to get people to reveal personal information, stop the self-pity and stop posting when you've taken alcohol. I'm sure you'll notice an improvement.