Posted: 29/10/2013 at 12:01
Stargaze Lily (hug) We're so lucky in that my parents were able to choose their own care home just up the road a bit from where they'd lived for 30+ years - they'd always said that if they needed care that's where they wanted to go - they'd visited friends who'd lived there - it's more like a little guest house really but with really good carers, only about 15 residents - perhaps more of a family home than a guest house, with the bickering that occasionally goes on LOL, but parents know some of the carers' parents, and where they all live, and where they shop and where their children go to school, and although Mum's getting confused now, all that familiarity every day really helps.
It's run by a local charity and on Christmas Day all the Trustees and their spouses (spice? sounds better ) go to have Christmas Lunch with the residents - a proper big turkey gets carved in front of everyone, glasses of fizz and party poppers and crackers and paper hats and presents and party games. Everyone has a lovely time and families (us) are able to have our Christmas with our children and their families etc knowing that our parents are having a whale of a time - photos are taken and we see them afterwards. Then we can visit them between Christmas and New Year, 'cos on New Year's Day there's another big celebratory meal - every year mother tells me about the wonderful whole salmon that the chef cooks and decorates with cucumber scales etc I sometimes stay for lunch when I visit at other times - they are very lucky with the chef they have - who also is very good at sorting out television malfunctions when my parents have pressed all the wrong buttons at the same time