Posted: 08/12/2014 at 22:29
On Saturday, Dad was refusing food and drink. Sunday Morning,mum was rung, he had refused all tablets and was agitated. We all turned up at the hospital. Dad was increasingly agitated and hallucinating.I asked the nurse for something to calm him down, she is not allowed. So I asked for a doctor to see him. Junior doctor came, said yes, hes agitated, I said why cant he have some midazolam to calm him, she's only a locum, not allowed to make a decision like that. Finally we got a consultant from A and E to come up and review him. We had a big discussion about end of life care, and finally got him some pain relief and calmed down. Mum stayed all night with my sister. Shift change this morning, other sister stayed, I took mum home for shower and change. We went back and at 2pm a porter arrived to take dad for a scan.!!! ordered a week ago. We sent him away, and then a new consultant came and tried to tell us that we were being premature with end of life care, that all his problems were treatable. As Dad has been asleep all day, very calm, with no medication since 9 am, we said we wanted him to be comfortable and not in pain, and further surgery, procedures etc were pointless, as he now has liver failure, heart failure and pancreas has shut down. He checked his chest which was clear, and said he was fine, and would review it tomorrow. This was at 5pm. Dad stopped breathing at 6pm, very peacefully. We left the hospital at 7.30, still with no death certificate as no doctor had yet been to check him. (Two nurses agreed he had gone). We have to go back tomorrow for the death certificate.
He would have been 85 tomorrow.