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Posted: 04/08/2014 at 15:55

We've not had a holiday in 4 years. Not since sister in law said if mother in law died and we were ona remote island, with 2 flights a week,they would have the funeral without us.

So we've a lot of holiday time to make up.

My families a bit more friendly about that sort of thing.


Posted: 04/08/2014 at 13:53

There are three pixies on that site that look a lot like the bronzes done by David Goode. 

I have David Good bronzes in my  fantasy list for if I win the lottery.  The resin pixies are a lot nearer to what my pocket can afford.  The pixie lying on the flowers is so much a rip off of David Goodes   "comfort food " of one lying in a bed of marshmallows.




Posted: 04/08/2014 at 13:44

I've Pm'd you panda.


Posted: 04/08/2014 at 12:41

Sun is shining here. No work until wednesday , and I've booked a holiday

Just got to get my passport , insurance, jabs, antimalarials, diving medicals,etc.  As I was telling the aussie lodger, who doesn't plan for what he's doing later on today, Our holidays are planned like military operations.

North Sulawesi, here we come.....


Posted: 03/08/2014 at 21:26


Posted: 01/08/2014 at 22:57

The main problem is defining what portion of care is social care and what portion is nursing care. Sister in law had to fight the bean counters every step of the way, when they tried to scale back the care package. For instance, continence, asessed on a scale of 1 is fine, 10 is worst, the assessor tried to say that someone who is bed bound and doubly incontinent should be a 6. So how bad do you have to be for a 10? same with mobility. to my mind, someone bed bound, unable to sit up, needing to be regularly turned with a hoist, and moved around in a wheelchair would be a 10, not a 7. I have to say the team of carers were brilliant, feeding her, turning, cleaning, making sure she was hydrated, and she never had a bedsore in three years in bed.

It helped that her husband is a solicitor, and all queries were sent on his headed note paper.  When they said they would remove all care, we said we would pay for it all privately and then see them in court to argue the case. Every time they backed down. You couldn't do the arguing and all the caring, not enough hours in the day.


Posted: 01/08/2014 at 20:09

My mother in law was moved from the house in Coventry, into a smaller place next door to sister in Newcastle. She was always classed as being"in her own home".  Her daughter being next door neighbour was useful, because if they lived in the same house, it is assumed family can look after her. As it was, her daughter had a watching brief ,making sure the team of carers worked well, leaving her time to work, and argue with the social workers. The hallucinations are important, and I go through this with a lot of wives and husbands who feel guilty popping out for 10 minutes to pick up a few things. I see relatives being totally ground down by the 24/7 relentless caring.

Talking to someone who is not there is a hallucination.

Hallucinations means it is a mental health issue.

Therefore she needs nursing care, not social care.

Nursing care is free on the NHS.


Posted: 01/08/2014 at 19:30

I could archie, but having been at the sharp end for 30 years, it probably better go on the rant thread.

I could save the NHS billions, and divert it to real causes, but its very radical and not very PC, and it involves not being the World health service.


Posted: 01/08/2014 at 19:18

Best of luck, Verdun.

We had a lot of help from the Alzheimers society.

If she has been diagnosed as Alzheimers, she is entitled to full council tax rebate.

Also if the council try to charge for helpers, you need NHS (free) care.

Mother in Law had a team of round the clock carers paid for by the NHS because she hallucinated and was not safe on her own. This is not a social issue (which is chargeable) but a mental health issue, therefore is free on the NHS.

Someone asked me if I felt guilty about how much it cost the NHS.  No, I figure that as she and her husband had paid taxes all their working lives, she was entitled to the care. It seems to be OK for drug addicts to have hot and cold running social workers, when most have never worked a day in their lives, because its "a mental health issue" Personally I think that sticking a needle in your arm with a recreational drug is a lifestyle issue, and  more attention and care should be paid  to the elderly.


Posted: 01/08/2014 at 12:23

We have a  wood mouse and a bank vole living under the back doorstep. Not a natural partnership. 

They nip out and find bird seed the green finches chuck out of the hanging feeders. They dont cause any trouble.

The bird food is in hoppers in the kitchen, because they chewed through the plastic containers in the garage.

If they come in the house they will get traps. I  live and let live outside.

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