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Hello Forkers January 2017 Edition

Posted: 17/01/2017 at 21:34

You do pick some holiday spots, Hosta.

How about Tenerife next year?

rare seeds

Posted: 17/01/2017 at 17:59

Try Chiltern seeds or Plantworld in devon.


Posted: 17/01/2017 at 09:35

MIL had Alzheimers, hubbys paternal aunt had vascular dementia.  Vascular dementia took her in five years, with decline being a step down process with each mini stroke.  His mother had a slow decline over 15 years. Both are equally horrendous.

We learnt a few coping mechanisms. The Alzheimers society can provide a lot of pointers in the right direction. For instance, MIL did not have to pay council tax, and got a rebate from the time she was diagnosed. The Alzheimers society can also give help in filling forms in.

Get Power of Attorney in place before diagnosis, at the first signs of forgetfulness.  Otherwise the council can take over, sell the home and put your mother in care whether you like it or not.  By the time your elderly relative needs to have someone with power of attorney and a valid will made, it is too late. Do it while they are still compos mentis.

Dont argue that they are wrong. When she insisted she had had no breakfast, just give her another slice of toast.  Hubby did have to draw the line when his mum thought he was her husband, because he  looked like his father did when younger. When she insisted she had to get home to her mother, we used to distract her by saying that she was out shopping and would collect her later. Then change the subject.

She thought programmes on television were real. When she broke the second television by throwing something at the bad man, we resorted to carefully selected DVD's. The good thing was she never got bored with them, they could go on a loop , because she had forgotten she had seen them by a couple of hours later.  Ken Dodd, Morecombe and Wise , and  David Attenborough nature programmes went down well. She also like programmes about  tootling along canals.

Body clocks go haywire, sleeping through the day in four hour stints, then being awake most of the night. Unless you want to resort to sleeping tablets, you have to live with this. Sleeping tablets in elderly lead to more falls and hospitalisation. Having supplied medicines for nursing homes, it seems that many people go on sleeping tablets as soon as they go in to a nursing home. Nursing homes deny that this is for the convenience of staff.

Carers need respite otherwise they get ground down as well. Social services try to insist that the caring is a social problem , and should be paid for or done by the family.

However, in the later stages it is a mental health problem. MIL used to hallucinate, talking to people that were not there. It then becomes a mental health issue, in that it was not safe to leave her on her own. if it is a mental health issue, then it becomes nursing care, to be paid for by the NHS.  The powers that have to pay for this will argue it is not, because they know that family will not abandon their relatives, or that there is a lifetime of saving  out of taxed earnings to pay for it. We got 24 hour cover at the finish, paid for by the NHS. Did we feel guilty at the cost of keeping her in her own home when it would have been cheaper for her to go into a Nursing Home.  No.

 If drug addicts who have never done a days useful work in their lives can get hot and cold running social workers, key workers and the rest, because it is a mental health issue, then someone who has worked and paid taxes all their lives should get at least the same.

Hello Forkers January 2017 Edition

Posted: 17/01/2017 at 09:01

Nothing to forgive, Pat.

 Its like anyone in Scotland having central heating and triple glazing. Kind of essential.

If the outside temperature is above blood heat, if you can't cool off, you will get heatstroke.  Even though it is dry heat, which I can tolerate more than humid heat, I would be looking for somewhere cool. While working, some of the places used to get very hot in summer.  I used to find an excuse to go to the supermarket and loiter by the freezers.

Hello Forkers January 2017 Edition

Posted: 16/01/2017 at 19:01

I'm going to see if mum wants a row of Polka raspberry canes. best to move them now, and unlikely we will be here in September for the fruit.  All of my Roscoeas will need potting up too, and all the double hellebores.

Hello Forkers January 2017 Edition

Posted: 16/01/2017 at 18:29

Local news has identified that a 16 yr old girl who was reported missing in Dinnington has been found dead on a footpath.  It is thought to be suspicious.  Keep safe  Clari, and keep Reggie with you, you don't know what sort of nutters out there.

Hello Forkers January 2017 Edition

Posted: 16/01/2017 at 17:44

Ideally, some developer will take both houses, the gardens, and they can do what they like with it. If they are going to be restricted next door, they might want my bit as extra. I am going to take the money and run.

Hello Forkers January 2017 Edition

Posted: 16/01/2017 at 16:47

We're looking at a couple of properties. Trouble is we are not yet ready for the market. I better get the decorators in.

Hello Forkers January 2017 Edition

Posted: 16/01/2017 at 15:58

I've just had a hand delivered letter from the council, stating that someone has enquired about building houses on next door, a planning officer has been round, they noticed the wood and they have slapped an interim tree preservation order on every tree next door. This means I cannot even trim the sycamore that threaten my roof and give the squirrels access.

As Mrs N next door is away at her sons during the mourning period, I think that this was overkill. According to the woman who delivered the letter, I cannot even trim the hazel trees that I usually coppice for bean sticks.

It looks like things will be moving faster than we thought.

Raspberry conundrum...

Posted: 15/01/2017 at 14:39

How many plants are in there? Polka can be cut to the ground now. Glen ample, if you cut off all the shoots last summer, you are not going to get fruit next year. I would have them in separate beds so you can prune easily. Glen Ample you prune the fruited wood out after you have picked the fruit, leaving the current years new wood to flower and fruit the following year.  At that point , the new canes will be green, the old canes will be brown.  If you van take out the Glen ample and plant them elsewhere I would do so, now is a good time so long as the soil isn't frozen.  Cut down all the polka and give them a feed of blood, fish and bone when the new shoots start growing.

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