Posted: 29/06/2016 at 13:01
I got out of my first marriage relatively lightly. My friend in Australia gave up her career to travel all over the world with her husband, have three kids and do all the home support. Unfortunately he was a womanising alcoholic, but with a terrific amount of charm. When they separated, he persuaded her that it would be in the best interests of the children to not divorce until the youngest was 18 , that she would always have the family home, and he would support his family. Nothing in writing though, even though her solicitor said they had him by the short and curlies by this point. She still loved him and as I said, he was a charmer. ( or full of BS depending on your viewpoint)
He then proceeded to remortgage the house up to the hilt,and stash money where it couldn't be found. My friend was always having to face debt collectors, too scared to answer the phone most of the time, and in a poorly paid job just to put food on the table. and when it finally came to divorce, she was left putting the youngest through Uni, and ended up downsizing drastically to keep a roof over her head. Him and his new girlfriend moved into a huge new house, she of course doesn't work, but does charitable deeds and writes childrens books. (Vanity published)
GET EVERY PROMISE IN WRITING, PREFERABLY WITNESSED BY A SOLICITOR.
Later partners can have a huge influence over decisions over money.