Posted: 31/03/2014 at 02:50
What a lovely thread, all of you. My Mum is not with me any more, but her favourite freesias are just poking up their noses in pots in the GH, and the Orchids that I put on her coffin in the Nov we lost her are still blooming, but about to go past thier peak.
I hope you all had a lovely day, Mother or child. I notice that only Marion posted about what she received.
Well, as my boys are only 11 and 6, I had a lovely day. My new partner arranged a card and present for me, with them, from 'Moon pig'. A lovely teddy and card. My 89 yr old neighbour asked her hairdresser to buy a card for my boys to write. And my 6 yo made one at school. He was great. While his elder brother swore him to secrecy, he was itching to give it to me on Friday, when he was told to wait 'til Sun. On Sat, he said, 'Mum, at Christmas, we open cards before Christmas Day, so why can't you have your card early?' Who can argue with that kind of logic? So I got a lovely card, early, back to front, in the best handwriting that he WILL NOT produce for his teacher, in lovely drawings and colourings, that again, HE WILL NOT DO AT SCHOOL, thanking me for feeding him and making him cups of tea (which I don't drink but he loves) with a spoken list of other things he loves me for but had no time to write at school. What a little love, and he is autistic. My eldest was in cahoots with the neighbour. She asked him to go into the village on the bus today to get her a paper, cos my tesco delivery was not necessary this wk (I normally order her a Sun paper) But in reality for him to get readt meals for the 2 of them so that I wouldn't have to cook. He even kept it secret until I came in from the garden to make their tea, then told me they had eaten already!
I was allowed to stay in my garden all day with very few interruptions, no arguments or sulks, with an hour extra (would have been longer if the streetlight outside was working), no cooking, and the boys had hours of fun with the old toddler trike that I have finally put out for the council to take ( that I thought was not good enough to give away at min 12 yrs old, might re-think that!)
They got themselves bathed, put out clean uniforms, brushed their teeth and have bags and shoes ready by the door for morning. By 8pm. TV etc turned off at wall. Gave me big hugs and kisses, and went to bed!!!! No Bother!!!! NO Nagging that means they stay up later! So they can do it. No More excuses. The downside is that the house is now a tip! Again. But they have proved that my nagging works, when I don't need to, and that if I am happy, I nag less and praise more.
And to top the lot, rain is forecast tomorrow, (Mon), but I have one of my most expensive dogs to groom tomorrow, who will take all day (but he's lovely), My boys are in the 50th anniversary school play, with eldest taking second lead, and the money from that dog should top off the fund to buy a car I am looking at, that, can you believe, although old, is almost the exact same model, yr and mileage as the car Mum loved most before we lost her. It's even the same colour. The only difference is that this one is a hatchback, which I need for the dogs, and Mum's was a saloon. It belongs to the boys' swimming instructor, so I know it is reliable, she doesn't want to part with it, but hubby wants a Jeep he has his eye on. I just hope it passes MOT later today. If it does, Mum really is still there, looking down on us. If it doesn't, then she still is, but wouldn't it be strange if I can get it I have looked at so many cars, but a chance conversation produced the possibility of a car just like Mum's. We have been carless for 2 yrs almost, now, but I never accepted that Mum was gone, before.