Posted: 18/10/2014 at 18:42
I love the idea if creeping thyme, Will. My gran or yaya', as I used to call her, was Greek and thyme featured heavily in her cooking and is found all over Greece, so that would be quite symbolic, as well as being tough and surviving the odd mower!
I went yesterday and it was just the most beautiful, balmy day here in London. I ended up cleaning the headstone, removing the little metal cut flower reservoir which was all dented and ugly, then I stuck a pot of my own in the hole left behind into which I'd put some cyclamen, as I didn't like the idea of cut flowers that would die so soon.
In front of her grave, all was covered in beautiful mown grass turf. Very tough, with some huge clods of clay underneath. I cut away a section (asked the groundsman and they said that was fine as long as I remained within the border of her plot), turned soil over as best I could, added a bit of compost and planted some yellow bulbs (she loved yellow): mini alliums toward the back so they wouldn't get mown in June, as well as some mini tulips, then closer to the front of the bare patch (about a foot and a half from the headstone) narcissi and crocuses.
i know it isn't much, but it's a start, and you've all inspired me, so I shall now go back with some creeping thyme from the garden too. There's an abandoned grave right next to hers, really close to it, so only about 30cm between the two headstones and no way for a mower to get in there, so I may plant something else in that little gap too, as long as it's small and respects the grave next to it.
it is a beautifully kept place, but no one said a word when I left my pot there. It is very small mind you and in the headstone itself.
i like the idea of sedums, Fairygirl. Very tough too.
sever all graves around my grandmas have the odd larger plant, like a rose, in between graves where there are gaps, plus an aucuba here and there...and one grave , though flush with the grass like ours and without any stone kerbs around it, was literally covered in bright pink begonias and cyclamen. Just beautiful.
the grass cutters were there on the same day as me and I had a look - they did actually make an effort not to mow down obvious larger plants on graves, which I though was nice.
I think I'll stick with buobs for now, though the turf was so heavy and tough that I wonder how much they'll be able to spread there where I didn't remove it!
im glad I went and I'll pits some photos once it's done
thank you again for all your advice xx