Posted: 04/04/2015 at 14:44
Agree with Steve completely.
I dont do guilt, never have never will, my idea is that if you did what you could for people when they were alive, then thats it. What is the point, you cant turn back time and do thing differently,
We see so much of this as gravediggers and headstonemakers/restorers, People beating themselves up over visiting and tending. What annoys me the most is great floods of tears and OTT wreaths when they never ever went near the person when they were alive. Or as Hosta mentioned, no visiters but church wants the headstone placed, Thats guilt!
The headstone thing is dying off though, (scuse pun) my OH does a 4 day week now, thank goodness, but as it goes over to cremations, so the work load is cut. Also a lot of younger, next generations just dont feel the need.
I was going to have my mums ashes just scattered on the garden of rememberance but someone sent me a gardens voucher for 25.00 as a treat and I have decided to put the ashes in the garden with a Daphne planted.