Posted: 23/09/2014 at 22:37
Well, you seem to have achieved loads so far and it's easy to see that there is lots of potential, especially with that fantastic greenhouse. You have a lot to keep you busy with family, work, a new home AND the garden so my advice is
1) get some essential tools, you cannot do a good job with a hand fork! You need a fork, spade and hoe for heavy work but don't buy a brush-cutter, hire one, you won't need it once you have things under control. You will need a grass cutter of some sort so do your research now. Getting brambles out is a man's job involving pick-axes and sweat, believe me, you'll need help here.
2) focus on tidying up, then concentrate on one area at a time, so that there is something pretty to look at, or something to eat. Gradually, you can tame more and more.
3) it's meant to be enjoyable. If you are coping with all the rest of your life keep the gardening ambitions modest so that you can succeed, not just add another load of problems.
I think you have a really exciting garden here and I hope it gives you years of pleasure, learning to make it what you want. Good luck!