Posted: 24/10/2016 at 17:22
So many wise words. Modern life is so busy with careers and families and friends and all the little things, too, that take up our time. Yet I think that you reach a point when it is worth asking yourself what you really want out of life - and how much you are prepared to pay for it. I don't mean just money.
When I was about the age I think you are - settled job, kids in secondary school - I realised that it was all ok but not truly satisfying. We wanted to move and I stuck out for a big garden. All that has been said above is true: it's a lot of work; it will never be perfect; now I am old it sometimes seems a bit much and I have had to modify my plans and I do feel a bit regretful about my failings BUT in 27 years it has brought me joy, solace, unlimited interest, pride, wonder.... I am moved, humbled, intrigued. In my garden I am never lonely or bored or hopeless and only unhappy if distracted by outside things.
This morning, weary, I sat for a moment on a log by the compost heap and a robin hopped down to check if I had disturbed anything edible. The day was still and pearly gray but all the autumn colours are beginning to assert themselves and there are still flowers for scent and colour. I knew there was nowhere on earth I would rather be and nothing on earth I could have done better.
You only get one life and it is true - you should think of all your family, but think of yourself, too. If you really want it, go for it. Good luck.