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Something to block out sound of neighbours voice!

Posted: 27/06/2013 at 17:11

Kef I know exactly what your saying...Its seems when I write that I have excuses for all suggestions. I did throw an olive branch about a month ago. It was 2.30 in the morning and there was an awful disturbance next door. She was screaming like a banshee at her Son and Husband. The worse I've ever heard them. The next morning her builder came knocking at my door, he said that he'd heard we'd had a disturbing night of which I replied 'yes' then he asked me if I'd go and see if she was alright...I was the last person she wanted to see that morning, but knowing it had been a bad fight i sighed, gritted my teeth and the next minute stood at her front door. Her face was a picture of dread, like i said I was the last person she needed to see. I found myself asking her if she would like to come in for a coffee. Now I vowed that hell would freeze over before she would ever set a foot in my door! now she's sat pouring her heart out for two hours. I thought we'd sorted our differences, I was so wrong, I've even passed pleasentries over the fence! but if she clocks me first she puts her head down and makes a sharp exit. I'm now under the impression she jumped at the chance (even under the circumstances) of coming into my house because she wanted to see if hers was better than mine! I was being sincere and genuinely felt sorry for her. Now I feel like I was a fool.

My hubby summed her up its like she's raising her elbows and trying to push us out the way with her brashness. She once told me she was bullied, I do believe she has turned into one herself.

Something to block out sound of neighbours voice!

Posted: 27/06/2013 at 16:56

 Dovefromabove wrote (see)

Which way does the prevailing wind blow?  What about a smokey BBQ or Chiminea 


west normally! my sister suggested that, but anything I buy she has to go out and get a better one! here's a great example: I bought some twinkly solar lights for a few of my bushes, next minute I look guess who has them in hers? so when she was nosing against the fence I randomly ssaid to my husband "oh I'm having those lights off them bushes they look cheap, can I have some of those designer posts?" would you believe it she had the electrician in last week putting in garden post lights!

Something to block out sound of neighbours voice!

Posted: 27/06/2013 at 16:51

Thank you Salino, thats so sad, its no wonder that our society is breaking down. People just don't have the respect for others like they used to. Its every man for himself with most people and b****r everyone else! I can't see them ever moving on they have just spent way over the odds having their house extended all because she couldn't stand the thought of me having a bigger kitchen. Oh no she had to go bigger at the back and wider and taller. I know it may come across sour grapes, but honestly it isn't. We only ever wanted to extend the small 11' x 6' kitchen we had. Both our sons have left home leaving only us two but our kitchen has only ever been tiny and thought when the family came round it would be nice to have that kitchen diner area to socialise. our extension will maybe have cost us £18,000 approx we project managed it ourselves, they on the other hand have had a builder build them a double story extension to the side as well as a huge kitchen diner on the back. If the Quote they gave us for the front garden wall is anything to go by they must have spent around £100,000 on their house. They will never be able to command that back on their value as a semi in these parts will only command what the going rate is for the area. they will be in negitive equity otherwise. This is a fact we got from the local estate agents when we were in the planning stages of our extension. So I think we're stuck with them!

Something to block out sound of neighbours voice!

Posted: 27/06/2013 at 16:34

Hi Kef, I've decided she's not pushing me out! we just need to come up with an answer to the problem. both the she devil and her husband are unapproachable, My hubby feels the same as I do and we're both just so fed up. We've agreed we'll be giving it a year see if it all dies down after all the builder have gone. If I / we still feel the same in a years time then we'll put a sign up in the front and move some where rural. I think you may have discussed my mental health already with Mr R-d ha ha ha.

Something to block out sound of neighbours voice!

Posted: 27/06/2013 at 16:26

Hi TT I have succumbed to wearing earplugs at times, I've even worn my MP3 player whilst gardening, but when you have friends and family round its a bit difficult!

Something to block out sound of neighbours voice!

Posted: 27/06/2013 at 15:55

probably not on such a huge scale. I do like the cedar modern fencing on a vertical, we'll be creating this on a very small budget!

DFAb, Margo would be too sophisticated a name for her this she's not! I do however have a nickname for her, 'Cruela Deville' My neighbours the other way to me knows her by no other name lol...she's so lovely when you first meet her, but she's poison if you get on the wrong side of her. On the defensive all the time, if you have any complaints you get a round of very colourful language. Its no wonder her son doesn't have any respect for anyone because he's had a great master!

I thought of putting speakers in the garden but she'll just wop hers up she likes that loud too...two weekends ago she had her doors & windows wide open blasting the music, I got fed up so went and opened all mine blasted my music until she turned hers down, then as quick as she turned it down I turned mine off. I think she got the message, just a shame she's so brash! we went to view another house yesterday and I was sad, I really don't want to move I've lived here 23 years, and why should she force me out! I do on the other hand feel I'm at the end of my tether  I think I'll try the lawn mower trick if she's out there when I am and I get sick of her voice, the sprinkler might be a good one too as she could do with a nasel wash to clear her sinus (she talks through her nose)!

I keep coming back to edit as there are so many replies..

I've known her husband for as long as we've lived here, We got on with him great he was once considerate, however he's changed over the last few years. His first wife was lovely really, my sort of gal, I still keep in touch with her via FB. they got divorced he remortgaged then within a week of his wife moving out he moved this big bird in and her obnoxious son! I think he needed someone to iron his shirts! she saw him as a meal ticket for her and her son - this I'm certain even his own son pleaded with him not to marry her! out of the frying pan into the fire.

Something to block out sound of neighbours voice!

Posted: 27/06/2013 at 15:48

WOW what a responce. I know this is a hard one to deal with thats why I asked for advise here's pics of my patio...

Pic no 1 this is the dividing fence

 this shows my patio area and if you look at the end of the garage we have had to move our patio table to this area. But why should I have to be forced up the garden when just outside on my patio its like a sun trap and because of all the brick work its rather warm here even on a dull day.


 I tried to get a view over the fence to show the scale of their patio area it stretches across the garden about 60' from our fence to the neighbours the otherway!

I think we will be going with the water feature idea we've been to a local water garden specialist today, they were so sympathetic and put all their featurs on for me so I could hear the different sounds and sound levels of the falls. Looks like I'll have to rejig my plants...move my box as I think we're going for a waterblade feature like this...



Iris Flower Stalks

Posted: 27/06/2013 at 07:52

Thanks DFAb, I thought it might encourage growth rather than seed production if I cut it off. Just wanted to check what other experts would do, I've never grown the bearded iris before! .

Something to block out sound of neighbours voice!

Posted: 27/06/2013 at 07:41

I wasn't sure if this should have gone in Garden design but it is a problem that needs solving!

Last year my husband and I built a kitchen extension on the back of our house (semi detached). My neighbour decided that they would have one too and began building Nov last year its still going on! Where we always had quite a distance between patios, they've decide that they would extend their patio area right up close to ours and have placed their dining table right close to the boundry fence. The Lady of the manor next door has this awful loud voice and cackle the type that makes you cringe! I have thought of putting in a hedge but my border is raised and only about 18"s in depth and I fear that it would over power our small patio area. I have put pyracantha up the fence but it isn't mature or dence enough to block out her boombastic voice!

What would you suggest I could put in my garden other than outdoor speakers or a getto blasta! to mask her voice. I have considered moving house because of them but I would be so upset to leave my garden.

Moon Garden Suggestions....

Posted: 27/06/2013 at 07:21

Philadelphus 'Belle Etoile'  a compact shrub that grows about 4'-6' smells divine,  also Jasmine this has a gorgeous musky smell in the evening.

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