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Worries & troubles that affect Forum friends - part 2

Posted: Yesterday at 14:37

Woah! everybody!

Nobody should be urging DD to talk to Charlie before she feels the time is right - she is the only one who knows her son and can gauge how mature he is to cope with information.

My suggestion was merely that she should try to have some sort of response ready if Charlie himself directly and unexpectedly asks if mummy and daddy are unhappy / splitting up. 

If he doesn't ask the question and DD doesn't feel the need to tell him just yet - then that is how it should be. Difficult situations take time to resolve and we all do it in our own way. 

Worries & troubles that affect Forum friends - part 2

Posted: Yesterday at 09:51

Not bolshy at all DD - quietly determined is how you sound.

It will not be easy telling Charlie but I'm sure you will find the right time and way to do it.

I have no experience in these matters but I would have thought it was important to be truthful with him. If you don't need / want to tell him anything yet that's fine - but perhaps think about what you might say if he asks you outright if you and daddy are unhappy / splitting up etc.

Children don't necessarily need to know all the facts - but they will remember if you said everything was ok when it clearly wasn't. It would also be good if daddy was saying the same things - but that may be a little more difficult...

Good to hear you have allies close by. Best wishes x

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Posted: Yesterday at 09:30


Still in bed

Plan for today was to get out & do some more in the garden - weather forecast was warmish, overcast and dry. Have just had another long, heavy downpour...   After all the rain last night everything will be wet through. Very unpleasant for the big cuttting back exercise and the soil was so wet yesterday I'm not sure it was a good idea to be walking on it. 

Might just do an hour or two this afternoon instead.

SGL - hope you feel a bit brighter soon

Hosta - have a good day at work

Dove - enjoy your trip - say Hi to Nut from me

Fairy - behave yourself - it sounds as though lone men are no longer safe in them there Scottish Hills  


Posted: 25/06/2016 at 14:42

Joyce - re the Hampton Hack - it's just a major cut back and tidy up session!

For me it's a case of a good clear out of all the stuff which was looking so good a month ago but has now gone over & is looking ratty-tatty & overgrown - all the late spring / early summer flowerers - aquilegia, honesty, hesperis, some geraniums, bulb leaves etc etc. 

It leaves space for summer plants, tidies every thing up and provides lots and lots of stuff for the compost bin (usually shredded with the lawn mower). It's also an opportunity for a good weed & dead heading before some summer planting.

End of June / beginning of July is when it seems to need doing - ie around the time of the Hampton Court Show. As you say, most of have been doing it for years without giving it a name 

The Chelsea Chop is all about stopping plants to delay flowering or promote bushier growth - the Hampton Hack  is more about regaining a semblance of order in the garden

Much needed in mine 

The cats look very at home in the greenhouse Wonky - Flatters has turned into a handsome fella with a bit of TLC hasn't he? 

Night Pat.


Posted: 25/06/2016 at 09:39


Glorious day here - at the moment... Forecast for more rain this afternoon so planning to get in the garden this morning and make a start on the Hampton Hack. Always nervous about doing it because it leaves big holes in the border. But there are cosmos, rudbeckia etc to slot in and it all looks a bit of a mess after all the rain - so I know it will look better for doing.

The Old Vicarage near East Ruston

Posted: 24/06/2016 at 20:08

Lovely photos BL - will have to try to go back this summer.

It's up there with Hidcote & Sissinghurst for me - and maybe the best of those 3 because it still feels like an intimate, private garden full of personal quirks and taste. Love it! 


Posted: 24/06/2016 at 15:38

I just got back too Dove & am having a cuppa.

Lovely day - thanks to you and BL for your company - lovely to meet BL for the first time.

As you say - it was good to do something positive today 


Posted: 24/06/2016 at 07:41


Phrases involving hell and handcarts spring to mind.

Hope beyond hope that I am proved wrong and we can come out stronger and better from this mess.

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Posted: 23/06/2016 at 20:56

Night night DD zzzz


Posted: 23/06/2016 at 20:51

Terrific storm a couple of hours ago - torrential rain - garage flooded  - anything of importance on bricks so just a soggy floor to deal with. Electric still working thank goodness.

Looking forward to tomorrow with Dove & BL - forecast is good but, after a squelch down to the shed I might put the wellies in the car in case it's a tad wet under foot.

Roses might be a little washed out (mine have been to the laundry and put through the wringer) but it will be lovely to meet up - and any rose survivors will smell extra sweet in the damp air 

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