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East Anglia Forkers Outings

Posted: 06/09/2014 at 11:54
V-e-r-y s-l-o-w connection here in deepest France - but the wine, cheese & sun compensate!!
I'm still coming to W Acre but I might not be able to make Beth Chattos. So if Panda was still wanting to go there it might be safest for someone else to arrange transport - sorry about that - but it may yet work out.
Will look in from time to time to see what you've all been up to

HELLO FORKERS!

Posted: 02/09/2014 at 21:48
Great cakes GG.
Does your dog eat the spiders (s)he catches Lesley? My old cat did but they always made her burp REALLY loudly - fall about laughing loud....

japanese knotweed

Posted: 02/09/2014 at 21:28
Funny how it's the same grammatical & spelling errors though.....

Talkback: Making plum vodka

Posted: 02/09/2014 at 21:10
Runnybeak - Did you enjoy it?

New Member

Posted: 02/09/2014 at 17:25

Hi freewillow - welcome to the madhouse.

Sunny erein Suffolk too Alan4711 

Talkback: Making plum vodka

Posted: 02/09/2014 at 14:17

Can I come for dinner Dove? - sounds yum

I had a little trip to Aldi this weekend to suss out their gin which has won various awards & beat several premium brands in blind tastings. It was certainly cheap (less than £10 for 750ml I think) and I noticed they also had similarly priced brandy.

Now I didn't think the gin was that great for G&T (a bit sharp for my taste) but it will do VERY nicely for making raspberry gin (adding blackcurrants sound good too) & I think I will also try Sarah Raven's blackberry & apple gin.

I imagine the brandy is also a bit rough for after dinner drinking but will work a treat for cooking, c-word cake & pudding & for fruit brandies. So I might be giving that a go too.

If you are too impatient to wait for raspberry & blackberry gin to mature a slug of Pixley(?) raspberry & blackcurrant cordial (delish  ) in a strong G&T is a really nice fruity / summery cocktail & not too sweet.

 

HELLO FORKERS!

Posted: 01/09/2014 at 10:20

Busy-Lizzie, If you have time - what with guests & getting ready for your jollies and all - I've sent you a PM. Nothing particularly important - just wanting some insider info on french supermarkets 

Worries & troubles that affect Forum friends.

Posted: 01/09/2014 at 10:15

Best wishes Punkdoc  - hope the op is successful.

Worries & troubles that affect Forum friends.

Posted: 31/08/2014 at 22:30
Thanks peeps. I think that all I'm trying to say is that it's not easy - the outcome we all want (for things to be as they were before) just cannot happen & you can only do your best to try to reach a compromise solution.

I think that sometimes it pays to try to take a step back and say "what would I advise my best friend to do?" - somehow it depersonalises it a little bit. Maybe that's just me but it has helped me make some very difficult decisions.

Enough from me - best wishes & support to all going through such a horrible time. xx

Worries & troubles that affect Forum friends.

Posted: 31/08/2014 at 18:56

Verdun - I really feel for you and all the others going through similar trials - as you may have guessed I too have the T-shirt.

I think we all understand what you mean by the 'guilt' but, if you are considering a good home for your mum where she can be cared for in safety by qualified staff with the right equipment, then there is nothing to feel guilty about. 

My father pleaded for me to take him home - that was so hard to take. But (in addition to his confusion) he was so unsteady on his feet and needed constant physical support to do everything from personal care to walking. I'm 5' tall & totally unable to lift or support a fully grown man on my own. If he'd come home with me we would both have ended up in hospital and I would have ended up hating him for ruining my life.

Does that sound very selfish? - I'm sorry if it does - but I was part of the social work team dealing with elderly people in our area. I saw what looking after aged parents without appropriate help or support could do to people - how it dragged them down and how everybody (including the aged P)  just ended up being so unhappy & full of guilt.

You are trying to do the right thing, you are trying to do your best - you really cannot do anymore.

Really squeezy hugs!!

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