Posted: 30/09/2014 at 19:25
Such heart-tugging stories - brings back so many memories - I feel for all of you struggling with the problem of Aged P's. The only thing I can repeat is that you all genuinely sound as though you are trying to do the very best for your parents in a situation where there are rarely any winners and where there is no solution other than compromise.
FB - I had to make the same difficult decision a few years ago when my father was very ill. My husband was desperately tired & in need of a holiday & I was completely torn as to whether we should go (for husband's health) or stay so I could be on hand for my father.
Fortunately my father was still fully compos mentis at that stage & I was able to talk to him about it. He was quite adamant that I should go - and, fortunately, he was still there when I returned. Can you talk to your father about it - or, if not, your mother? Would it help to have their blessing to go?