Posted: 11/01/2016 at 17:52
I like this forum just the way it is - plenty of sound gardening advice when required - plenty of timely reminders (for that read kick up the b*m) to get jobs done - and some nice general chat on the Forkers and other threads when I'm sat here on my own drinking tea. I've also met a few other members for garden visits which was a lot of fun - every bit as nice in real life as their virtual personas - & I'd like to do some more of that.
I don't mind tooooo much if there is the occasional thought provoking / controversial thread posted - so long as they don't start affecting the rest of the forum. This forum is special because it is generally a friendly place to while away the time without the back biting & snide remarks which seem to poison a lot of other forums. Too many contentious non-gardening subjects could eventually erode this good feeling.
I do think, however, that the most important thing to remember is that the a written view is not always read as the writer intended it to be - and not everybody reads every single word of a posting to pick up any small nuances. Potentially controversial postings should therefore be written with care.
In my opinion one should restrain from posting when upset or angry (too easy to let too many unbridled feelings spill out of the keyboard) or after partaking of a few alcoholic beverages .
Much better to write it all out in Word (or whatever) and save it for at least a couple of hours & then review it with a calmer clearer head. Amazing how differently things read (even to the author) after they've been left to stand for a while...