Posted: 09/07/2016 at 14:45
Runny - I hate almost anything ostentatious / over the top etc etc - to me it's just a glorified form of showing off. Your friend's daughters sound like brats who just wanted a big show for them - nothing whatever to do with their mother.
Some people thought we were awful because we had no hymns or readings at my dad's funeral and there were very few words said at all. It was a very short 'service'. Not because we didn't care but because that's what he asked for - no religious 'stuff' (his words), no eulogy, no music.
Made it very difficult to plan as an 'event' - but his brothers and sisters insisted they wanted an 'event'. Felt guilty because we asked the vicar to see him off - but we couldn't think who else to do it and otherwise it would just have been a group of people sat in the crem. staring at a coffin! Nobody wanted to stand up and say a few words but 'everybody' wanted 'somebody' to do it. Nightmare.
Hate family stuff like weddings & funerals - always seems to disintegrate with undercurrents of tension & hostility with ancient arguments rearing their ugly heads. But maybe mine is just a totally dysfunctional family...
NDN's can be as bad (although some can become lifelong friends ). I'll join in the effigy sticking on P'Doc's behalf. Hope he's ok.