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Posted: 31/03/2015 at 11:47

Hi Lyn

I do understand your concerns around your mum's funeral - I do not 'do' crowds or small talk very well either. For both my parents' funerals I felt very much (at the time) that I would rather be anywhere else but there.

Looking back, however, the formal event did give a sense of closure and moving forward. People were kind & supportive and family feuds (which had caused me much angst in the days prior to the events) were forgotten for at least a few hours and people made the effort to be civil and courteous to one another out of respect for my family. 

I think it was a healing process overall. Don't worry about what to say or how to deal with everyone - they are there to support you not the other way round. Nobody will expect you to be the life and soul of the party & will understand if you are a bit quiet & reserved. I'm sure nobody will judge you if you want to slip away early because it's all 'a bit much'. 

I hope it all goes as well as these things can and it gives you some peace and closure x



Posted: 29/03/2015 at 15:38

My cat has just come home after 10 days in the cattery. First thing he did was to patrol his patch to see who'd been visiting in his absence. Second thing was to spend 15 mins rolling all over the newly emerging catmint leaves giving himself a good coating of the scent.  He was thoroughly high by the time he'd finished and didn't even notice that it was pouring with rain and blowing a hooley 

Thickening a Sparse Beech Hedge

Posted: 29/03/2015 at 09:43
Hi & welcome Northern Clay
Just to add my voice of reassurance....
We also have a beech hedge which normally gives us good privacy - but it was very high in places making hedge trimming a difficult 2 - 3 day task. It was also very uneven & quite thin in one or two places.
We had it cut back hard in December (abt 1.5 m ht reduction in places) to encourage it to thicken up & to make maintenance easier in the future. At the moment it looks very sparse (the cut back removed all the leaves which would normally give us some winter privacy) & anybody using the footpath at the side of the house can see straight into our sitting room.
I can, however, see buds forming & I know we've done the right thing. I will feed it now I can see signs of growth & I am hopeful that a little TLC this year means we can have a beautiful thick hedge in the future.

Favourite biscuit?

Posted: 26/03/2015 at 13:12
Ooooh thanks Lesley - just the job with my tea

Favourite biscuit?

Posted: 26/03/2015 at 12:13
Right now I have a strange yearning for one of those marshmallow & biscuit & chocolate teacake thingies - nice & cold from the fridge.
Not quite a biscuit I know - but really, really fancy one...

nipped off primrose's

Posted: 24/03/2015 at 19:14
I think I know who-dunnit Granma!
I accuse Mary Berry in the kitchen with a sugar syrup.

Have just watched her crystallising primrose flowers and leaves to decorate a Simnel cake on the Bake Off Easter Special

Problem solved

Favourite biscuit?

Posted: 24/03/2015 at 18:17
Cheap as chips jam & cream sandwich biscuits when I just need a sweet fix.
Duchy Original chocolate orange biscuits when I'm feeling flush and sophisticated.
Had some lemon & rose petal shortbread recently. Thought it would be like eating a bar of soap but was delicious - too expensive for everyday tho'


Posted: 23/03/2015 at 22:44
Hi PG - my delphs are also not showing yet but last week I dug one up as I wanted to plant something else in that spot.
The underground plant was fat, firm, with lots of subterraneum shoots and just about bursting with life - so I decided to split it into 4 & replant elsewhere. I am not 100% sure they will take but it felt so right to do it and I think I've been gardening long enough to trust my instinct on this one.

Worries & troubles that affect Forum friends.

Posted: 23/03/2015 at 17:46
Hi Lyn - have just caught up with your sad news. What an amazing fight your mum put up - but hardly surprising knowing her incredible daughter was by her side throughout - your story has reduced me to tears at times. It's now time for you to give yourself a little space & a lot of TLC.
Best wishes to you, your father & the rest of your family x

nipped off primrose's

Posted: 22/03/2015 at 17:28
A very fine specimen of a pheasant was recently seen strutting around the border pulling all the heads off my crocus. A yell of 'game chips and bread sauce' saw him off - but not before the damage was done. I believe primrose flowers are edible for humans - so, presumably, they taste good to other creatures too.

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