Posted: 30/10/2014 at 18:21
Last evening I got so mad with my niece's partner.....they have agreed to part but he is making her life miserable with his constant aggressive calls and texts to her. I rang him with threats, with anger and with "justifiable" emotion. Not recommended normally but it did the trick.
a subsequent call to him resulted in a lengthy reasonable,,even friendly, discussion. He lacks a father figure in his life ...his own father rejected him....and it was clear he needs someone to talk to. His mother says they don't talk, can't talk and it's something they have never done. He expressed envy that my niece has someone to talk to. Who knows how this or anything will work out but there are times when being reasonable and "correct" does not work and when being annoyed, and showing this, can be effective.
Talking if possible is often very effective ......lack of communication causes so many difficulties. I like to deal head on with everything ......often this will enable issues to be dealt with and resolved. I accept though that it doesn't always work