Posted: 10/10/2015 at 00:09
I posted a year ago about the difficulties my mum had when admitted fo a care home. After 92 years of robust (considering her age) physical and mental health she suffered a stroke then additional smaller ones. Vascular dementia necessitated her going into a home
the home was awful. A shock. I admit to anger and temper. Within a couple of days I had various inspections made....social worker, local council, etc. Within a week the management was changed, some staff changed and new systems established. A big improvement....at first. It started then to drift back. I complained big time whenever there were issues and the home soon established better care, etc. I would call at different times and I am sure many of the staff hated me calling. However, many were happy to see me and mutual respect resulted.
it is a difficult job caring for people in these homes....I could not do it I know that. I am sure the residents in these homes are naturally treated as not deserving of the total respect they should have and if visitors did not attend standards would be bad. Many, most, of the residents never had visitors
I confess to seeing the residents as shocking and less than we are at first but I got to respect....yes, respect.....and like them as I got to know them. I am sure they are aware of their plight and frustration, distress and pain is suffered more than we realise. I got to realise bad luck or circumstance has changed their lives dramatically. It can and will happen to many of us.
To end their lives in these homes is not right. To be able to choose what happens to us is better.......