Posted: 03/04/2015 at 17:02
We had fields behind our house when I was growing up. Dad used to say put me in a banana box and throw me over the fence. As he got older he told us that if we spent more than the absolute minimum on his funereal he would come back and haunt us.
My friend's mum was buried and she feels really guilty if she hasn't time to go and tend the grave, she goes every holiday, anniversary, birthday etc.
I on the other hand think about Dad most days and don't feel the need to visit a special place to do it. I think that's why I don't want any sort of commemorative plaque etc. I also have a morbid fear of being buried alive so that's why no grave.