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Does anyone else wonder whether our love of gardening and losing ourselves in a world of our own bears any relevance to our experiences. Not into psychology, but does make me wonder whether this is where we find our peace.
GG - know where you are coming from. Our scars are on the inside, and we can either give into them, or find the strength from somewhere to get on in spite of them. I was lucky, Mum & Bio Father split up when I was 15, I realised I was afraid of him during a court hearing, strangely enough, after I realised I was afraid, I realised what he was, and stopped being afraid of him. He's just a spoilt bully.
GG, you got one thing wrong. You are a unique, beautiful person, and you DO matter, you need to remember this and give yourself some respect for all you have achieved, not everyone could have done what you have. You remind me a bit of my Mum. Was trained by her Mum to be a doormat, and did a very good job of it until she couldn't take it any more, and left in what she stood up in. She's now very happy with my Stepdad, and have moved to Spain - I'd love her to move back so she could be more of a Grandma to my two, but if she's happy in Spain, then she deserves that happiness.
My motto in life is stolen from the Camel Trophy - One Life, Live it.
Good stuff, MMP. Believe me, I'm no pushover! But thanks for your kindness.
Tina, you may have a point there. Gardening, good book, or chocolate. Or grown-up ginger beer (in moderation). Or cheese and biscuits. Oh bugger it. Off to raid the fridge.
Tina-you don't know how right you are.
When you love someone and think you can help them you keep trying until your health suffers and your children suffer. Then something happens to force your hand-in my case it was something my daughter did. The sad thing is that he can change his 'problem' but he's the only one who can do it. I don't want him to die because of it. I loved the person I wanted him to be- I still do. I wish I could change the things that happened but I can't- I can only learn from it and hope I don't fall into the same trap again. I have to move on and that's what the garden can do. A brilliant therapy.
Perhaps we should start a new thread- 'Kindred Spirits'.
I think that's what we are.
Love to you all GG, MMP and Tina
Most definitely Fairygirl. Was just thinking how comfortable we 'strangers' must now be that we feel able to share so much. It became my 'mission' to want everyone I found in the same boat as myself to get what I had! Some tried it and found it worked, others didn't find they could. I was sad for them as they would go on trying to change whoever and that would never happen. The only person you can change is yourself.
jst back from super market raiding picked up 4 pots of tete-a-tete for 10 c a pot went into lidl and most of the plants were missing since yesterday. coincidence or have lidl listened, Aldi havent so far. I got a 10 Kg bag of cornish granite chippings which i hope will help my seedlings.
Well done, blackest! I'm off to Lidl shortly (after my morning socialise here) so will check on the plants!
Some decent offers on today tomato plants at 89 cent bedding at 2.49 which is fair same as last years 4 for 10 offer. this years prices seem a bit higher than last at 3.39 compared to 2.99 last and veg seems to be getting sold at flower prices which is annoying because in ireland flowers have 13% vat and veg is 0 rated.
surfinia's are cheap too at 1.49 might be time to do a few boxes
Lidl had healthy, well-watered plants. Only bought 2 gerananiums for £3 but the rest looked lovely - big contrast with Aldi. There were potting mats there for a couple of pounds, though, that I had bought earlier in the 99p shop.
Fresh stock today, but good to see the older plants are getting some tlc hopefully.
sometimes its worth paying a little bit more my pound land trowel has about as much stiffness as a soggy bit of cardboard worth the 2.49 for the aldi one but not the 7 for a gardman trowel. just transplanted a few pansy seedlings very poor showing for the age I dont think i'll bother using my plastic shelves as seed trays again (16 plants out of 3 foot by 1). still they did germinate in the colder weather.
Back again, sent for new power cord Tuesday, £20 plus postage, arrived today plugged in and away. Still going to buy a new one though, this is old and slow like me, looking at Acer, anyone got one and comments.Read through the thread thought I was on the wrong thread, I arrived at Secondary School on crutches and a big pot on my leg so got a good bullying, two weeks later Mother got a letter from the head master, tell your son to stop using his crutches as deadly weapons, end of being bullied.In the forces you stand up to be counted even though your guts turn to water all good practice to supervise the ICI heavy squads and worse still the Office girls.Rant today is that Easterly wind when will it turn away? the weather forecast says warmer, last night was frost and today bitter.
Not gardening related, but I thought you all might to know that M&S have an offer at present for one third off duck, guinea fowl and poussin. They're doing their bit.
Frank/Dad both my girls had Acers-they're the ones that are on the blink!! That said-they weren't expensive ones and the girls used them constantly so I think the laptops were just losing the will to live. I've just bought an Asus and so far so good. I went on comparison site and this one was through Ebuyer. Think it was £240 as there was money off it. It'll be fine for what I need and I guess that's the key. I'll only use it for this and banking etc and the odd browse -nurseries and garden related sites mostly!
My good one is an HP and my rubbish one is an acer. However, the HP was a lot more expensive than the acer, so I supppose you get what you pay for. It is much better to get a 64 bit one than a 32 bit one, I thinnk, but costs more.
I have a HP that is probably 3 years old (was using it to go on baby sites when preggers with number 2), and it's still fine. Was under £300 from PC World. Got it from there as with a toddler and another on the way at the time, really wanted to get their 'if anything happens' warranty, which I've used 3 times (twice for power cord and once when it started smoking ominously!) As I got the platinum cover, they come & pick it up, give me a loan laptop, and bring it back when fixed. That said, if I'd put the tenner a month in a tin, I could've bought a new one now.
OH also has a HP and hates his, as its so slow (it has software issues, he tries to open a load of websites and run pro-engineer at the same time). It does take ages to boot up, though, so not all down to him. Apart from trying to set itself on fire, I like my HP.
All to do with whether 32 or 64 bit, perhaps. 64 bit is a lot faster.
GG, think it's more to do with running Windows Vista on OH's laptop (what a pile of S***e), whilst mine is running Windows 7.
That's a whole other rant, which I'm not even bothering to start, don't have the energy today.
We had Vista on the Acers too and I know it wasn't great sometimes whereas this is Windows 7. Did you notice I was slightly politer than you MMP?
Acer was just looking and the replies say it all. My current one is Toshiba on Vista which I love, certainly an improvement over windows 7, still it is five years old which in Laptop terms warrants a telegram from the Queen.Back to Toshiba I think although no rush now I am back on line, had HP in my office so many years ago now we had to reinforce the desk big ugly and to me a waste of time and paperAt computer school I used the Apple as no one else would go on it, thought it a wonderful machine and program but why so costly compared with other well known names.Will wait for the sales when the children are back at school, mine are away caravanning in the Lake District.